Umdlalo wokuzenzisa — owaziwa nangokuthi umdlalo oqanjiwe noma wokuzenzisa — ungaphezulu kakhulu kunokuzijabulisa okulula. Kungenye yezindlela ezinamandla kakhulu izingane ezifunda ngayo, zihlole imizwa, futhi ziqonde umhlaba ozizungezile. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bazenza udokotela, bapheka ekhishini lamathoyizi, noma banakekela unodoli, lezi zikhathi zokudlala zakha amakhono abalulekile ahlala ukuphila kwakho konke.

 

Kuyini Ukuzenzisa?

Umdlalo wokuzenzisa ngokuvamile uqala nxazonkeIzinyanga ezingu-18futhi iba nemininingwane njengoba izingane zikhula. Kubandakanya ukudlala indima ethile, ukusebenzisa izinto ngokomfanekiso, kanye nokusungula izimo ezicatshangwayo. Kusukela “ekuphakeleni” isilwane samathoyizi kuya ekudaleni izindaba eziphelele nabangane, ukuzenzisa ukudlala kusiza izingane zizijwayeze ubuhlakani, ukuxhumana, nokuqondana ngokomzwelo endaweni ephephile.

 

Indlela Ukuzenzisa Ukudlala Kuzisiza Ngayo Izingane Zithuthuke

Ukudlala ukuzenzisa kusiza izingane zifunde futhi zikhule ngalezi zindlela ezilandelayo:

 

Ukuthuthukiswa Komqondo Ngokudlala Ngokucabanga

 

Ukudlala ngathi kuyaqinisaukuxazulula izinkinga, inkumbulo, nokucabanga okujulile. Lapho izingane zenza izimo ezicatshangelwayo, kufanele zihlele, zihlele, futhi zizivumelanise nezimo—amakhono asekela impumelelo yesikhathi esizayo ezifundweni.

Ngokwesibonelo:

• Ukwakha “indawo yokudlela” ngamapuleti amathoyizi abicah kukhuthaza ukulandelana okunengqondo (“Siqale sipheke, bese siphaka”).

• Ukuphatha "amakhasimende" amaningi kuthuthukisa ukucabanga okuguquguqukayo.

Lezi zikhathi zithuthukisa ukuguquguquka kwengqondo futhi zisiza izingane zenze ukuxhumana phakathi kwemibono - kubalulekile ekufundeni kamuva.

 

I-Emotional Intelligence Namakhono Omphakathi

 

Ukudlala okucabangayo kunikeza izingane ithuba lokuveza imizwa futhi uzijwayeze ukuzwelana. Ngokuzenza umzali, uthisha, noma udokotela, izingane zifunda ukubona izimo ngemibono ehlukene.

Emdlalweni weqembu, baxoxisana ngezindima, babelane ngemibono, futhi balawule ukungqubuzana — okubalulekile okubalulekile kwezenhlalo nemizwelo. Abazali bangakukhulisa lokhu ngokuhlanganyela ezimweni zokuzenzisa kanye nokumodela amagama athinta imizwa (“U-teddy uzizwa edangele. Yini esingayenza ukuze simjabulele?”)

 

Ukukhula Kolimi Nokuxhumana

 

Ukwenza sengathi ukudlala ngokwemvelo kwandisa ulwazimagama. Njengoba izingane zichaza imihlaba yazo yemicabango, ziyafundaisakhiwo somusho, ukuxoxa indaba, nolimi oluveza imizwa.

• Ukukhuluma ngezigcawu zokuzenzisa kuqinisa ukuzethemba ngamazwi.

• Ukulingisa kabusha izinqubo zansuku zonke (“Ake sihlele itafula ukuze sidle!”) kuqinisa ulimi olusebenzayo.

Abazali bangakukhuthaza lokhu ngokusebenzisa iziyalezo ezilula nemibuzo engaphenduleki njengokuthi “Yini elandelayo eyenzekayo endabeni yakho?

 

Ukuthuthukiswa Komzimba kanye Nezinzwa

 

Umdlalo wokuzenzisa ngokuvamile uhilela amakhono ahlakaniphile nabi kakhulu - ukunyakazisa ibhodwe, ukunqwabelanisa izinkomishi zamathoyizi ayisikhonkwane, noma ukugqoka unodoli. Lezi zenzo ezincane zithuthukisaukusebenzisana nesonokuqwashisa ngezinzwa.

Izinga eliphezulu, izinto eziphephile ezifanaamathoyizi abicahyenza le misebenzi ibe yinzuzo nakakhulu. Imidwebo ethambile, elula ukubamba imema ukuthintwa nokuhlola kuyilapho isekela ukudlala okuphephile kwezingane nojahidada.

 

Yenza sengathi Dlala Kuminyaka yonke

Umdlalo wokulingisa uyathuthuka njengoba izingane zikhula, futhi isigaba sokukhula ngasinye siletha izindlela ezintsha zezingane zokuzibandakanya nomcabango wazo. Nansi incazelo yokuthi ukudlala sengathi kubukeka kanjani eminyakeni eyahlukene:

 

Izingane (izinyanga ezingu-6-12):

Kule minyaka, ukudlala sengathi kulula futhi kuvame ukubandakanya ukulingisa. Izingane zingase zilingise izenzo ezibona abazali bazo noma abanakekeli bezenza, njengokufunza unodoli noma ukuzenza sengathi bakhuluma ocingweni. Lesi sigaba sokuqala sokudlala sengathi siyasiza ukwakhauxhumanokanye nokuqonda izinqubo zansuku zonke.

 

Izingane (iminyaka engu-1-2):

Njengoba izingane zikhula zibe izingane ezisacathula, ziqala ukusebenzisa izinto ngendlela engokomfanekiso. Isibonelo, ingane ingase isebenzise ibhulokhi njengefoni yokuzenzisa noma isipuni njengesiteringi. Lesi sigaba siyakhuthazaukucabanga okungokomfanekisokanye nokuhlola okuhlakaniphile, njengoba izingane ezisacathula ziqala ukuhlobanisa izinto zansuku zonke nokusetshenziswa okuningi nezimo.

 

Izingane zasenkulisa (iminyaka engu-3-4):

Phakathi neminyaka yasenkulisa, izingane ziqala ukuzibandakanya ekudlaleni okuyinkimbinkimbi nezinye izingane. Baqala ukwenza abalingisi, imigqa yezindaba, kanye nokulingisa izindima ezifana nokuba uthisha, udokotela, noma umzali. Lesi sigaba sokuzenzisa siyakhuthazaamakhono omphakathi, uzwela, kanye nekhono lokuhlanganyela nabanye emhlabeni wemicabango eyabiwe.

 

Izingane Abadala (iminyaka engu-5+):

Kule minyaka, umdlalo wokuzenzisa uba nemininingwane eyengeziwe. Izingane zakha yonke imihlaba ecatshangelwayo, egcwele iziqephu ezinemininingwane, imithetho, nezindima. Bangase balingise izigigaba zenganekwane noma baphindaphinde izimo zomhlaba wangempela. Lesi sigaba siyakhuthazaubuholi, ukubambisana, futhiukucabanga okungaqondakalinjengoba izingane zifunda ukuxoxisana, ukuhola, kanye nokucabanga ngokujulile emdlalweni wazo wemicabango.

 

 

Indlela Abazali Abangayikhuthaza Ngayo Ikhwalithi Ukuzenzisa Ukudlala Ekhaya

Nawa amasu asebenzayo okuthuthukisa ukudlala okucatshangelwayo kuyilapho kuhambisana nezidingo zokukhula kwengane yakho:

 

• Nikeza amathoyizi avulekile: Izinsiza ezilula (izikhafu, amabhokisi, izinkomishi, imvunulo) zikhuthaza ubuciko ngaphezu kwamathoyizi anesiteji esiphezulu.

• Landela ukuhola kwengane yakho: Esikhundleni sokuqondisa umdlalo njalo, joyina isimo sabo, buza "Yini elandelayo?" noma “Ungubani manje?” ukuyikhulisa.

• Dala izindawo zokuzenzisa ezizinikele: Ikhona elinezinto zokugqoka, ukusetha okuncane "kwesitolo", noma indawo "yekhishi lokudlala" imema ukudlala okuqhubekayo.

• Faka izindaba nezimo zempilo yangempela: Sebenzisa imicimbi efana nokuvakasha kodokotela, ukupheka, noma ukuthenga njengamapulangwe omdlalo wokuzenzisa.

• Vumela isikhathi esingahlelekile: Nakuba imisebenzi ehlelekile ibusa ubuntwana besimanje, izingane zidinga isikhathi sokuphumula ukuze zihole owazo umdlalo.

 

Izinganekwane Ezivamile Nemibono Engalungile

• “Kuyaxova nje.”Ngokuphambene, ukudlala sengathi “umsebenzi wobuntwana”—ukufunda okucebile okucatshangelwe njengokujabulisayo.

• "Sidinga amathoyizi athile."Nakuba ezinye izinto zasesiteji zisiza, izingane empeleni zidinga izinto zokwakha ezincane, eziguquguqukayo—hhayi ngempela amagajethi abizayo.

• "Kubalulekile kuphela esikoleni sasenkulisa."Umdlalo wokuzenzisa uhlala ubalulekile nangemuva kweminyaka yokuqala, okunikela olimini, kwezenhlalo, nemisebenzi yokuphatha.

 

Imicabango yokugcina

Ukudlala okucabangayo akuyona into ewubukhazikhazi—kuyinjini enamandla yentuthuko. Lapho izingane zicwila emhlabeni wokuzenzisa, zihlola imibono, zijwayelane nemizwa, zicije ulimi, futhi zakhe amakhono okuqonda. Kubazali nakubanakekeli, ukusekela umdlalo onjalo kusho ukudala indawo, ukunikeza izinto zasesiteji ezivumelana nezimo, nokungena ezweni lengane yabo ngaphandle kokuthatha izintambo.

Masivule indawo yezimpahla zokugqoka, amabhokisi ekhadibhodi, amaphathi etiye, ukuvakashela udokotela ozenzisa—ngoba ngalezo zikhathi, ukukhula kwangempela kwenzeka.

At UMelikey, sisebenza ngokukhethekile kumathoyizi okudlala asezingeni eliphezulu asiza ukukhulisa ubuhlakani nokuthuthuka. Njengomphakeli oholayo weamathoyizi wengane ngokwezifiso, sinikeza anhlobonhloboabicah enza sengathi ukudlala amathoyiziephephile, ehlala isikhathi eside, futhi eklanyelwe ukukhuthaza umcabango wengane yakho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ufuna amasethi okudlala ngokwezifiso, amathoyizi okufundisa, noma amathuluzi okufunda asebenzisanayo, uMelikey ulapha ukuze usekele ukukhula kwengane yakho ngamandla okudlala.